Hi Prof. Gose.

This time you are getting my review on "35up". I watched it this past sunday at home. One thing I would like to metion beforehand is that I had trouble understanding the people at times due to their strong English accent. But I think, however, that I managed to grasp the main ideas to write a critique. I found evidence of the crisis of intimacy vs. isolation. As an example I would like to use Bruce. I hope it is the right name. I am refering to the teacher, whose dream it was to become a missionary. He did not become a missionary, but had the opportunity to teach in a third world country. Evidence of his crisis of intimacy vs. isolation is the fact the he did not have a girl friend, nor was he married at age 35. His inabilty to form an intimate relationship is evident, nevertheless, he seems to be aware of the fact that he still has to learn a lot in that repect. He referred to the occasional teenage behavior when he is around women. Academically speaking, he is very accomplished, but it seemed like that this problem of intimacy must have developed at an ealier stage of his life. My hunch on this is that he maybe be lacking a feeling of trust during infancy. During my introduction course of psychology, the teacher pointed the importance of parantel love to develop healthy sense of sharing emotions. Breast feeding as well as frequent skin contact with the mother are all important elements to familiarize the infant with the opposite sex. I suppose that a lack of any those features in early infancy lead to shyness, a uneasiness with the opposite sex, as well as a hestitation. I saw all these characteristics in Bruce. I also found evidence of the crisis of accomplishment vs. inferiority. An example would be the jockey, whose name I believe was Paul. His crisis can be described as one where he felt accomplished in the sense that he could do the things in life he wanted, but he felt inferior in the sense that he was never quite successful, particularly as a jockey. Even at the age of 35, this is the one thing he regrets. Maybe his experience as a jockey sort of predisposed him to the attitude "to do the things you want to do , even if you do not succeed". Even the commentator asked if he felt accomplished despite his lack of success. I have a great deal of respect because people in today's society are so competitive, trying to accel in every aspect. We forget to enjoy life and we do not focus on the dreams that bring us happiness. He certainly got his dreams fulfilled. There is only one phrase to say:"Carpe diem!" However, the fact should not be negleted that it is normal to feel unaccomplished or inferior from profound experiences that meant a good amount. Especially in adolesence, this is predominat and disappointments have long lasting effect. I can therefore understand his regrets about his unsuccessful jockey career. I think it is important to take the time and look at the person we have become. To some it may be positive, to others it may be negative. But nevertheless, we are human beings to learn from our past to become the person we want to be.